Tuesday, August 11, 2009

Trippin' and Guilt Trippin'

Just picked up Supermangirl (10:15 PM) from a "late night" trip courtesy of her day camp.
And Wonderwoman has to be at day camp tomorrow morning at 7:20 to leave for her overnight trip. She will be returning on Thursday at midnight. Of course there is no bus service at those times, so the parents must drop off and pick up their kids.
I always wonder if the camp administrators that schedule these trips ever stop to think just how much they're inconveniencing parents by requiring these early drop offs and way-too-late pickups. For me, it's a matter of leaving one daughter home alone sleeping while I go pick up the other one (I do it, but it makes me nervous). For other families, it can mean dragging babies or toddlers out of the house late at night, or shlepping out at midnight when you have to be up at 5:00 the next morning.
And of course, you can't complain about it, because the answer is always, "Oh, but the children have so much fun! You don't want to take that away from your daughter, do you?" Yeah, lady, I'm a mean old ogre who cares about myself more than I care about my kid. Thanks for the guilt trip.


CJ Srullowitz said...

I wonder, lulei demistafina, how well the culture of "fun" fits into our true vision for our children as shomrei Torah umitzvos. Yes they should enjoy their summer, but will they be ready for school come September?

Anonymous said...

Changes in schedule are inconvenient, and the schools and camps do often act as if we have absolutely nothing else to do, ever. They also seem to have no clue that some of us might have, for example, six kids in 4 different schools, each of which has made special plans. It's times like this that I long for the old days ... our grandmothers or greatgrandmothers didn't drive ... of course, they didn't have washing machines either, so goodbye to that fantasy.

Staying Afloat said...

A bus... what a concept. No, actually my boys can walk to camp which is helpful when we get under a week's notice for a trip that comes home at 10:30 PM.

I think that we lead really hectic lives, and that carpooling and homework and mitzvah notes and tutoring and therapies and lessons are the new washboards. Each generation has its own thing, I guess.

And yes, we do feel pressured to give each kid the best of everything and to put our own needs last. Except sometimes the hectic life itself is too crazy for the family. And if we don't take care of ourselves, everything falls apart.

Lakewood Falling Down said...

Reminds me of when I posted about how yeshivas piss me off with pre/post days off fro yom tovim-Like I can just take weeks off from work! and let's not forget about 1/2 days. Those girls who spent years in seminary learning all of the sudden can't fast and teach at the same time. But I still have to work a whole day. One of these days I'm going to add up babay sitting costs from all of these days and present it as a bill to the schools.

observer said...

I know this is a bit old - but the answer to the school is simple "If you care about the safety of the kids you would have dropoffs at the house - or on the corner of each block, and a way for parents to know when to go meet their child."